Straight goes gay

Be fabulous.

Mikhail Schemm, 34

Milan, Italy

Tell us about the first time you went to a queer party.
Mikhail: I think it was summer 2005 or 2006, at the Matinee party at Space in Ibiza, which was a renowned queer party on the island. We will share the compelling personal stories of five men who have navigated the intricate path of sexual identity fluidity in adulthood.

Most of these men are also married to women and prefer to have sex with women. It was this deep-seated need for understanding and connection that spurred him to actively seek out places where his newly acknowledged gay identity could not only exist but thrive.

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(n.d.). To his surprise, we were all very accepting. The path to embracing fluidity, however, demanded a shift. I loved the techno music they were playing and everyone just seemed to be having a great time.

Feel magical. It was a person, a soul, and suddenly, my neatly constructed identity started to feel restrictive."

This realization introduced Alex to the concept of sexual identity fluidity – the understanding that a person’s attractions, preferences, and identity can change over time.

There were so many guys passionately making out, which was confronting to me at first, as I had never witnessed anything like that. There’s always a general understanding on consent and boundaries, which creates a vibrant space for expression.

What’s one thing you want people to know about queer parties? Fluidity allows people to explore attractions and behaviors without needing to redefine their core sexual identity.

Fluidity and Self-Acceptance: Self-compassion and acceptance are essential for those navigating sexual fluidity.