Middle aged gay men

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How Brandon Teena’s Murder Changed How We Talk About Gender And Justice

His 1993 murder exposed the dangers of living authentically in a world not ready to understand.

That requires courage and rejecting heteronormative expectations like getting married, having kids and owning one or multiple properties, and the problematic youth-centric attitudes that permeate the LGBTQ2+ community. Honestly, I sometimes wish I hadn't waited so long. 

Growing up in the '80s was not a safe environment for a queer kid, so I chose to hide my true self

Growing up in the '80s in Las Vegas, I was in a different, difficult time.

Blatant homophobia and pressure to fit in left me thinking I was some sort of freak. The props that support comfort. You came out. You might even have the boyfriend. It may start with a litany of fears like “I’m too fat”, “I’m too old”, or “I’m not good enough.”

Fortunately, you can tap into support when the mid-life experience becomes bewildering, depressing or painful.

They’re just our excuse to talk about everything else.”

The Ripple Effect:

When my clients start building community, remarkable transformations happen:

• James hosts monthly “Gay Cocktails” evenings (started with 3, now hosts 20+)

• Michael’s “Sunday Steppers” walking group has 15 regular members

• Their approaches are being adopted by LGBTQ+ centers nationwide

Why This Matters More Than Ever:

Our community faces a unique challenge: isolation increases with age, especially for gay men.

But that’s exactly why building a chosen family is revolutionary.

Think about what we bring to community building:

• Decades of relationship wisdom

• Understanding what makes connections last

• Freedom from competitive dynamics

• Ability to blend friendship and romance

• Skills in creating safe spaces

This isn’t just socializing — it’s survival.

Success Story: The Literature Lovers

When Carlos started his book club: “I was just looking for people to discuss ‘Giovanni’s Room’ with,” he says.

Being a middle-aged gay has its benefits. 

At a certain age, you start to become more comfortable in your own skin and gain a newfound sense of confidence and inner peace. Not quite ready to brave the needle, I opted for a HydraFacial instead.

But wait…there’s more! Not for anyone else — for me. You might even try embracing the mantra: This is who I am.

HIV/AIDS robbed too many of these men of their futures in what should have been the prime of their lives. But I finally had the courage to come out at 55. We’re interested in quickening the soul.”

Why This Matters to You:

• These aren’t isolated success stories

• They’re blueprints for possibility

• They show what’s possible when you stop playing by old rules

The Uncomfortable Truths We Need to Talk About

Let’s Talk About Robert

At 63, he got blocked on three dating apps in one week.

Why?

The magic happens in that authenticity.”

The Plot Twist I Never Expected

Last week, I found myself rereading a letter from Marcus, the 67-year-old who deleted Grindr.

He wrote: “G, you kept telling me this chapter could be my best one yet. Are my photos sexy or cringe? How many fucks do I give? And suddenly, I realized my age wasn’t a liability.